Episode 379 – Unstoppable Lessons From Peter William Murphy: Turn Small Choices Into Big Change

Ever feel like you had to start over from zero? I sit down with writer and teacher Peter William Murphy, an Irish expat who rebuilt after a family business collapse, a serious injury, and a move to Reunion Island that reset his path. I wanted to understand what it really takes to choose growth when life gets loud, and Peter shows us how clear decisions, steady practice, and honest support can open new doors.

We talk about the power of owning your choices, moving through anxiety, and asking for help before pride gets in the way. Peter explains how he built Peak English to help students raise their IELTS scores and change their futures. We get into how online teaching actually works when you design it with care, why in-person connection still matters, and how writing became a tool for clarity, confidence, and service.

What I love most in this conversation is Peter’s calm style of resilience. It is not flashy. It is daily. If you are starting over, switching careers, or simply trying to make your next decision with intention, you will hear practical steps you can use right away. I think you will walk away encouraged, with a clearer view of what steady progress looks like and how to keep going when the ground shifts under your feet.
 
Highlights:
 
00:10 – Meet the guest and set the theme of choosing growth over comfort.
01:12 – Hear how a family hospitality legacy shaped early values and work ethic.
02:25 – Learn how the 2008 crash ended the bar and pushed a search for a new path.
07:37 – See why a one-way ticket to Reunion Island became a turning point.
10:11 – Follow the move into teaching without a degree and the first classroom wins.
14:20 – Pick up online teaching tactics like gamification and lesson design.
15:56 – Understand imposter syndrome and the pivot into writing and Peak English.
21:16 – Get a clear take on when online learning works and when it does not.
28:38 – Compare virtual vs. in-person speaking for connection and impact.
32:41 – Learn Peak English’s mission to make IELTS success more accessible.
46:32 – Try a simple decision tool: write pros and cons and choose with intent.
54:55 – Hear the advice to younger self: talk to someone sooner and keep going
 
About the Guest:
 
Peter William Murphy is an Irish writer, educator, and host whose path has been anything but conventional. Raised in a small family-run hotel on Ireland’s west coast, Peter immigrated to America following the hotel’s closure, attending school there before returning home to rediscover his Irish roots—and a deep love for sport. But beneath the rugby and soccer fields, a creative instinct stirred.
 
When the 2008 crash brought down his family’s business for a second time, Peter booked a one-way ticket to an island off the coast of Madagascar with just €20 and no job prospects. After a brief period of sleeping rough, he was helped by strangers who offered support without judgment—a lesson in quiet empathy that never left him.
 
Peter made his name on Medium, where he was curated 39 times for his memoir-style essays on travel and the lessons learned along the way, before pivoting to sharp, comedic takes on current affairs. Notable among his growing body of work are original characters like Jack Hennessy, a wry Irish journalist with a nose for trouble, and the Rick and Morty-inspired duo, Peta and Freeman—two chaotic, absurdist voices that serve as both satire and self-reflection. He now splits his creative focus between personal essays, humor writing, and his new livestream comedy podcast, The Peter and Philip Show, which he co-hosts with author Philip Ogley and which is gaining a mini-cult following on Substack. Peter is currently working on a book loosely inspired by his global misadventures, missteps, and the redemptive power of human connection.
 
Some of Peter’s creative and personal heroes include Hunter S. Thompson, Ernest Hemingway, Matt Stone and Trey Parker, as well as his mother, father, and brother—who continue to inspire his voice, values, and pursuit of honest storytelling.
 
Peter is currently developing the Peta and Freeman series into a comic and is halfway through writing his first novel, The Red Beach in Paradise, which tells the story of his time on Réunion Island through the fictional lens of Jack Hennessy. While Peter still teaches full-time with his own private students, he is also working on opening an online school to help students prepare for exams and gain university admission across Europe. Every cent he earns from his writing goes directly toward making that school a reality.
 
Ways to connect with Peter:
 
My GoFundMe to fund the school: Link here
Peak English Instagram account: Link here
Peak English TikTok: Link here
My substack that contains writing and podcasts: Link here
My Medium Account: Link here
 
 
About the Host:
 
Michael Hingson is a New York Times best-selling author, international lecturer, and Chief Vision Officer for accessiBe. Michael, blind since birth, survived the 9/11 attacks with the help of his guide dog Roselle. This story is the subject of his best-selling book, Thunder Dog.
 
Michael gives over 100 presentations around the world each year speaking to influential groups such as Exxon Mobile, AT&T, Federal Express, Scripps College, Rutgers University, Children’s Hospital, and the American Red Cross just to name a few. He is Ambassador for the National Braille Literacy Campaign for the National Federation of the Blind and also serves as Ambassador for the American Humane Association’s 2012 Hero Dog Awards.
 
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Transcription Notes:
 
Michael Hingson ** 00:00
Access Cast and accessiBe Initiative presents Unstoppable Mindset. The podcast where inclusion, diversity and the unexpected meet. Hi, I’m Michael Hingson, Chief Vision Officer for accessiBe and the author of the number one New York Times bestselling book, Thunder dog, the story of a blind man, his guide dog and the triumph of trust. Thanks for joining me on my podcast as we explore our own blinding fears of inclusion unacceptance and our resistance to change. We will discover the idea that no matter the situation, or the people we encounter, our own fears, and prejudices often are our strongest barriers to moving forward. The unstoppable mindset podcast is sponsored by accessiBe, that’s a c c e s s i capital B e. Visit www.accessibe.com to learn how you can make your website accessible for persons with disabilities. And to help make the internet fully inclusive by the year 2025. Glad you dropped by we’re happy to meet you and to have you here with us.
 
Michael Hingson ** 01:20
Hi, everyone. Welcome wherever you happen to be to unstoppable mindset where inclusion, diversity and the unexpected meet. And today, I think we’re mostly going to get to do the unexpected, which is anything that doesn’t have to do with inclusion or diversity. Peter Murphy, or Peter William Murphy, as he refers to himself in all the emails that he sends to me, is a writer. He has been a teacher, has an interesting story, I think, all the way around, and I’m not going to tell it, because it’s more fun to listen to him tell it, and we’ll see what we can learn from it and how we progress. So anyway, Peter, I want to welcome you to unstoppable mindset. We’re really glad you’re here.
 
Peter William Murphy ** 02:00
Thank you so much for having me. I really appreciate it.
 
Michael Hingson ** 02:03
And although Peter is Irish, he’s in Turkey today, or he’s he’s over there, so he does move around, as you’re going to learn in the course of this next hour or so. So why don’t we start, why don’t you tell us, kind of about the early Peter, growing up and so on.
 
Peter William Murphy ** 02:19
Um, well, I’m from truly, county Terry in Ireland, beautiful small town in the west coast, the Southwest we I come from a family of Hoteliers and publicans. My great grand Well, yeah, my great grandfather had the Meadowlands hotel in Chile, and then passed to my grandfather. But then after that, my father decided to open up his own bar. And that’s kind of where after growing up, you know, around the hotel and, you know, seeing all the customers talking to people, very social kind of atmosphere, but unfortunately, it closed down. We had to move to America, back to Ireland. I attended Glendale Abbey school in County Limerick and yeah, I had a great upbringing, great family, but unfortunately, I never really liked school, if I’m be honest with you, which is a strange thing for a teacher today, I did not do well in school. I did just okay. But after the economic crash in 2008 Unfortunately, our family business closed down, so I had to try and find my own path. It was a little bit different than Ireland and I took off, got myself a teaching cert, and went to Reunion Island. And from there, my story kind of took off, and it’s kind of where I learned a lot of my lessons. And after that, I just kept on going and didn’t stop.
 
Michael Hingson ** 03:59
So why did the family business closed down the first time.
 
Peter William Murphy ** 04:04
The first time was because my grandfather basically needed a retirement, and he sold the hotel. And then my father then decided to open up his own bar, and just rising then 10 years later, that closed down during in 2011 I think there is a big economic crash in Ireland, rents went up. People weren’t eating or socializing like they were, and through no fault of RL, it was just time to close the doors, which was a pity, because name of the bar was wooly Darcy’s. It was a fantastic bar, very social, no televisions, very traditional, and yeah, so we all kind of had to go off and find other ways. And, you know, figure out who we are without, say, bars or. Hells or general hospitality and so kind of, yeah, right.
 
Michael Hingson ** 05:06
Well, so what? What was the reason for commuting or immigrating all the way to America after that?
 
Peter William Murphy ** 05:14
Well, we immigrated to America after
 
Michael Hingson ** 05:17
the hotel, yeah, after the hotel closed, right?
 
Peter William Murphy ** 05:21
Yeah, that was in 1998 and we were there for maybe two years, I believe, I’m not sure, and went to school there. My father worked in summers pubs, which is owned by my uncle in Boston, and then he made enough money to come back to Ireland in 2000 and open up his own bar. But yeah, it’s just,
 
Michael Hingson ** 05:49
why America? Why America? When the hotel closed, half
 
Peter William Murphy ** 05:53
our family live over there, so my mom’s side of the family live in America. Yeah, okay,
 
Michael Hingson ** 05:59
well, that makes it a little bit more logical that you would you would consider doing that.
 
Peter William Murphy ** 06:05
Oh, I loved it, Michael. I After, after two weeks, I was no longer Irish. I was playing baseball, eating pizza. I good American accent. I loved America, I
 
Michael Hingson ** 06:17
must say now, so are you in the Boston area?
 
Peter William Murphy ** 06:21
Yeah, we lived in West Roxbury, okay, just outside the city.
 
Michael Hingson ** 06:26
I lived in Winthrop Massachusetts, which is by East Boston, for three years. Very nice. So I never really got a Boston accent, but I do know how to say things like, pack your kind of have a yacht, you know? I can, I can still do it. Great accent, actually, but that’s lovely. But I enjoyed being in Boston and just being around all the history. It’s pretty, pretty amazing. But then you move back to Ireland, so that worked out, and he started a bar, and then you did that. So when, when that closed, and then you left again? Why did you leave again?
 
Peter William Murphy ** 07:06
Uh, basically, um, it feels difficult, kind of speaking about publicly, but I, I was kind of Joe there’s, and I say that because there are people out there with bigger problems than me like I was a rugby player and the son of a publican. So for my formative years, my identity, for me at least, was kind of set. I was either going to be a rugby player or I was going to work in a bar or go into hotel management or something like that, but I had a pretty horrific leg injury during rugby training, and I suffered a few blows to the head, and then the bar closed down, so it was like one year you kind of had it all figured out. And then going into university as a young man, I had nothing. I could barely really walk I my family identity was gone. We’re in the midst of a economic crash, a depression, and then I kind of developed my own sort of depression, but I, at the time, I didn’t know it was depression. It’s only Lacher that, when I spoke about it to professional that I kind of, we kind of spoke through and just said, Yeah, that’s what it was. So I kind of, I wouldn’t say, lied to my parents, but I told my mom, who’s listening? Hi, Mom, I love you that I got a job in France, and I’d gotten an English certificate, and I didn’t want to do University. I wanted to take a year out because I just couldn’t handle it. Um, so, you know, I thought solving my problems would, you know, going away would solve my problems. So I there was no job in France. In fact, I wasn’t going to France. I booked a one way ticket to Reunion Island, which is an island often called to the Madagascar in the Indian Ocean.
 
Michael Hingson ** 09:22
So why there? Why there? Because my friend
 
Peter William Murphy ** 09:26
was there, and he was there getting University credits for his degree. And, you know, back then, I wasn’t a very good listener. I was a bit silly. I’m sure he told me all the details, but I just, I just heard son see maybe a job, and it’s not and it’s not Ireland, you know, it’s not gray, it’s not depressed. People aren’t on social welfare. Let’s, let’s go. So I booked a one way ticket with what remained in my savings. And blew over there. And Michael, I’m going to be honest with you, when I landed at the airport in fentanyl, and I was hit with the hot Island air, and I could see it the volcano and, you know, the blue ocean surrounding me, I immediately regretted my decision. I want to go home, but I couldn’t, because I had no money to buy a return ticket. So then the kind of Island Adventure kind of started, and yeah, I was stuck there for two years trying to get home.
 
Michael Hingson ** 10:34
Did you ever kind of make peace with all that and decide that maybe it wasn’t such a bad place?
 
Peter William Murphy ** 10:40
Yeah, I, I, I kind of, because I’m a storyteller. I love writing, so I’m good at, kind of, you know, I wouldn’t say I think all writers are good at, you know, giving dramatic effect. You know, maybe there, there’s instead of one shark, there’s five sharks. Instead of a storm, it’s a cyclone. But when I would tell people about it, I would say it was difficult, but looking back at it now, it was probably the best thing I ever did, just taking that leap and going for it.
 
Michael Hingson ** 11:19
Did you ever finish in going to university? Or did you ever
 
Peter William Murphy ** 11:23
No, I just kept going. Kept going, kept going. I I got a job teaching English at a course. A lady by the name of Daniela from Angola gave me my first ever job, and you know, we hit it off. And this is back in 2011 or 12. I After about six or seven months working with her, so all the kids love me, the students love me. I learned a lot about her kind of holistic approach to education and teaching, and we were speaking in her kitchen one day, and she says, okay, when all this is over, what are you going to do? And I said, Well, I’m going to try and open up my own school. And she seemed surprised, but yeah, over 1310, or 11 years later, I’m not sure that’s exactly what I’m trying to do now, is open up my own school.
 
Michael Hingson ** 12:21
Tell
 
Peter William Murphy ** 12:22
me about the school. Well, my wife, well, I’ll go back a little bit. When I finally built up enough money to fly home, I got a job working with a man from America, actually teaching students in Cork. And I said I wasn’t ready to go back to university just yet. I’d been in university for three years before I left, and it just something wasn’t clicking with me. I’m an intelligent enough person, but in university just something, it just wasn’t clicking. So I’ve decided to, you know, go to Turkey, simply because it was, you know, the closest. It wasn’t like France, which is familiar, and it wasn’t like, you know, far away, like China or somewhere like that. So I went there and got a job. But within six months, I think I landed a very, very good job at the top private school there, and they knew that I didn’t have a degree. They just knew that I had selfless certificates and TEFL and other English certificates. But they have about 60 campuses in Turkey, and they gave me, and one of them is a university in Istanbul. So I was given a lot of education. By then, I was kind of a teacher for 15th. I observed, if I was doing a lesson, I’d be observed lots of seminars, getting more certificates, learning more and more. And you know that as time went on, I just kind of became Mr. Murphy, you know what I mean? I became a teacher, kind of, I proved myself, and just my students started getting good results. The parents were very fond of me. My colleagues were fond of me, my boss, my principal was fond of me. So I went from kind of not really having any identity, not knowing what I was doing, to kind of having it. So I stayed working in this big school for eight years, and to get back to kind of your question on the degree and the school i i was chosen by them to give a talk in Istanbul to all my peers on online methodology and how I help kids. Do you know? With gamifications, using the right websites for them, things like this, I slowly became very adept at, and they asked me to do it the second year. And then I got offered by Pierce in Turkey, which is an educational publishing company, and to do seminars on their behalf. And then this is, it was the first time since I left Ireland. This was in 2002 or three where I began to have imposter syndrome, where I was like, Okay, I know I’m good, but am I better than the people who I’m, who I’m speaking to, you know, and I raised this with the person who gave me the opportunity, and he said, Everyone feels, feels this way, you know. But I couldn’t shake it, so I decided to in 2023 to step back from teaching, and I told my principal that I’m going to take some time away from it, and I became a writer on medium, and my writing on medium then took off. I started making a lot of money, and I found myself in this little hole where everything I was I was trying, was working for me, but it still didn’t feel like something that I could 100% stick with well, which is why I started writing the book, and then it’s why my wife and I decided to open up our own course, which will be a methodology, kind of created by the two of us, a curriculum, curriculum created by the two of us, which will have third party eyes who will sign off on it, and it’s called Peak English, and we’ll take it from there. So that’s kind of my long answer to your very simple question.
 
Michael Hingson ** 17:05
Sorry, Kay, that’s fine. Going back to when you went to Reunion Island. Do you think there was something deeper than just escaping from Ireland and the life you had, or you think it was just that simple?
 
Peter William Murphy ** 17:24
Um, yeah, it’s strange, because I have a great relationship. My brother, my father and my mother were all very close. But I, I think, I think I became afraid of life, you know, because, you know, my father’s my hero, of course, and he’s a well respected man in the community. He He was awarded, I can’t remember the name of the award, but basically, best host of the Year, Best host in Ireland last year by the hospitality board in the country. And when I saw what the economic crash did to him, it didn’t break him, but when I saw that what it did to him, I was like, my god, if life can do that to my dad, take away his bar, you know, make him sad, or whatever it’s like, what’s it going to do to someone like me, you know, so I became very afraid of life, and I suppose I just wanted to go somewhere that felt other worldly, and that just felt so different, you know, that just so different, Yeah,
 
Michael Hingson ** 18:38
well, and, and now you say that you really feel that it was the best decision that you could make.
 
Peter William Murphy ** 18:48
Yeah, I wouldn’t change it for the world. I mean, I’ve got some great stories. Yeah, halfway through a book about it now. So hopefully in the next year, that book will hopefully get published, and if not, I’ll put it out there myself.
 
Michael Hingson ** 19:06
So when the pandemic hit, how did that affect or deal with your teaching and so on? Because you were teaching all that time since you you stepped back from that in 2023 so you must have had to deal with a lot of stuff with the pandemic, I would think,
 
Peter William Murphy ** 19:25
yeah, I know a lot of people suffered during the pandemic, but if I’m going to speak, it was difficult for everyone, but if I’m going to just for me in my apartment in Turkey, it was a good pandemic for me, you know, I took the opportunity to learn the guitar, get better at my job, did a lot of study, got more certificates, and also. Uh, I was familiar with Zoom before the big zoom thing happened. So I kind of knew before our first online lesson. You know, I spent about maybe three weeks because we went into lockdown in Turkey, I think March 2020, I believe we were a bit Lacher than most, but we, we stopped school in February, I think, and there was about a two or three week time where they were trying to figure it out. And, you know, you you know, everyone’s going to go. If America and England are go and China are locked down. We’re going to be locked down too. So I started doing tutorials on Zoom Near Pod, other online teaching websites, and started learning about them. So when the first lesson started on Zoom, I was really good at it, and all the students loved it. I wasn’t the only teacher who did that. Lots of my colleagues I did that. But, you know, the pandemic was definitely a time where a lot of us who were lucky enough not to get ill were able to, you know, put more strings to our boat, right?
 
Michael Hingson ** 21:24
What do you think about all the discussions and all the arguments and all the conversations that go on now about online teaching as opposed to doing it live, and where, where all of it fits in. Can people really do it, you know, kind of what are your thoughts
 
Peter William Murphy ** 21:47
for children? I do not recommend this as the primary source of their education. I believe that socializing is very important for them, even having a teacher. You know, one of the biggest things you can do as a teacher with your classroom management is where you stand in the classroom. You know, being able to observe the students, then knowing that you’re there as a present all the materials that you would have in the classroom. These are all things that actually, they need something small, but they do help kids that kind of five minute break every 14 minutes where they can run outside, keep a ball around and talk to each other. That’s really important, yeah. But if you’re talking about maybe between the 18 and up age group, I think it depends on the person. I’ve had students who who are prepared for IELTS, and they have needed a top score, and only have three months, and we’ve been face to face, working, helping them with their writing, doing everything, and it just doesn’t work. There’s something about the school environment where it just doesn’t rub off on them. But then the minute you get them online and you start introducing games, you gamify it, just do lots of different things with them, for some reason they feel more comfortable. It could be an anxiety thing could be where they just feel more relaxed. At home, everyone’s different, but for children, from my experience, definitely face to face learning is the best. Zoom is okay in an emergency. I do not recommend hybrid learning whatsoever.
 
Michael Hingson ** 23:40
Yeah, it’s a it’s a challenge. I know, for me personally, I can do online and, or and, or I can do things in person, in terms of learning and so on. I’m used to doing a lot of things outside of the typical corporate or office environment. So I can do that, but I also value and appreciate the social interaction when you go into an office and you have an opportunity to to meet with people. The only thing I would would say is way too often, unfortunately, people socialize so much that they forget in a work environment, you’re really there to work and really need to figure out how to focus more on getting the job done. But I think there are a lot of aspects to that as well, because it isn’t necessarily that people are lazy, but by the same token, if they don’t really recognize what the job is about and what they’re doing and that they have to put the appropriate time into it, or figure out a way to put in the appropriate time, then that’s, you know, an issue too.
 
Peter William Murphy ** 24:58
Yeah, I would, you percent people. Be With You.
 
Michael Hingson ** 25:01
I think that, yeah, it’s interesting. I’ve had a few people on the podcast here where we’ve talked about time management. We’ve talked about how people work in Europe, as opposed to in the United States, and some of the statistics that show that, in reality, if people put in longer days, but don’t spend as many days at work, like if you put in 410, hour days, as opposed to five, eight hour days or something like that, you tend to get more work done, which I think is very interesting.
 
Peter William Murphy ** 25:36
Yeah, I’ve noticed that too, since I started working at home more and more. That I had a discussion with my wife the other day, and I said, you know, I think I need to rent an office, you know, because whilst I do like having, you know, low overheads and not paying rent. There is something about getting up in the morning, putting on a nice shirt, black coffee, and walk to the office. And you know, have your work day. One thing that I’m noticing is working online, with writing and helping students, is I’ll wake up at 5am and I’ll shower and I’ll I’ll work from 6am until midnight, and I am looking at my looking at myself in the mirror the next day and saying, Joe, this is unsustainable, like we It’s you can say to yourself, oh, sure, just, you know, make your own routine. But it’s very hard to stick to a routine if you are, you know, writing articles, if you have meetings at various times throughout the day, if you’re dealing with multiple time zones. So there’s, there is something attractive of going back and renting an office, you know, having a base where work is work and home is home. Yeah,
 
Michael Hingson ** 27:10
and I, and I appreciate that. I, I personally am able to work at home and separate that out. But I do know what you’re what you’re saying. And not everyone can do that. I’ve just done that a lot in my life because I’ve worked for companies where I worked remotely anyway, so I’m used to that, but I also appreciate your discipline. I’m sorry
 
Peter William Murphy ** 27:35
you’ve got discipline. It’s something I need to work
 
Michael Hingson ** 27:38
on. Well, I guess that’s probably it, yeah, I guess that’s that’s probably it. And I have enough other things during the day that demand time. So for example, at five o’clock, that’s the time to feed the guide dog, and he wants to eat. And if I don’t do that, I’m going to hear about it. So what’s your dog’s name? His name is Alamo. Like the Alamo? Yeah. So, you know, the issue is that I do have some things to help keep me honest, but, yeah, I can be fairly well disciplined with it, and I can make that work, and I understand that a lot of people can’t. The other thing for me being a public speaker is I’m not as great a fan of speaking virtually, speaking online, as I am speaking in person. And the reason is, and it took me a while to kind of figure out why I didn’t really like it as much as as probably some people that I don’t have nearly the same kind of connection with the audience to whom I’m speaking if I’m doing it online, and I don’t get to hear their reactions to things that I say. And for me, having that audio interaction, those auditory signals are part of what tells me if I’m doing a good job or not. On the other hand, I’ve done this long enough that I can pretty well tell what’s probably going to work and what’s not. So I’m perfectly happy to do virtual presentations, but if I have a choice, I like to do it in person, right?
 
Peter William Murphy ** 29:09
Yeah, I agree with you there. There is something very cool about being up on stage, yeah, and talking to a lot of people, but my favorite part has to be afterwards, when you’re having the teas and the coffees and you’re talking to everybody in the lobby. I really do love that part.
 
Michael Hingson ** 29:29
Oh, yeah. Well, and I try to integrate some of that even into the talks that I give, so that I have audiences participating. And sometimes the participation may be that I ask them something to answer, and sometimes it’s how I tell a story to draw them in. And I’ve had any number of people tell me we were just following you down the stairs in the World Trade Center as you were telling the story. You were just so. Vivid with what you were saying. We were right there with you. And that’s the thing that I think is a lot harder to do in a virtual environment than it is in a in an environment where you’re actually speaking to people.
 
Peter William Murphy ** 30:13
Yeah, that’s I told you when we had a chat before I came on, that it’s really great honor to speak to you. And you know, I really do love your story and the way that you tell it, and of course, about your guide dog that led you out. It’s really like an amazing story
 
Michael Hingson ** 30:36
well, and you know, it’s it, it’s a team effort. Both of us had jobs to do, and it was a matter of me being the team leader and keeping the team on course and doing the things that we needed to do. But it did work out well, and I’m glad about that. So it’s that’s important, but tell me more about the school that you’re trying to start as you’re working toward it, what will it be? Well, we
 
Peter William Murphy ** 31:07
are deadline to open it up was in three weeks ago, we found three buildings. I can’t go into the detail, but it’s, let’s just say that, you know, someone said one price in the advertisements, and then when we got face to face, there was a new price. There was a lot of that kind of carry on. So my wife and I had a discussion, and we said, let’s put peak English online first and get a base in because we do plan to either maybe perhaps move to Ireland in the future. So it is going to have to be a business that can, you know, move anywhere. We are going to have to have a online base. We’ve started working with the school in Brazil, and we’ve got some clients in Saudi Arabia and Qatar. So it’s a nice space to get online at the moment, as we head into September, when all the kids are back to school, and then we will start small. We on sub stack. I started a small GoFundMe to help me reach my goal before the deadline, and people were very, very supportive. They gained a lot of traction. And then I spoke with my subscribers, and I said I gave them the plan because I like to tell them to know what’s going to happen if they’re paid subscribers, because everything I make from my writing goes directly back into education. So everything I make from medium top back, everything it goes towards building the school. And we are now going to go into September on a good footing, but we’re going to have to downsize our expectations and perhaps buy some or smaller but our methodology and our mission will remain the same, to make education affordable, to help students pass their IELTS exams, to give them an opportunity to go work in Canada, America, the UK, Ireland.
 
Michael Hingson ** 33:15
So yes, that’s peak English. Well, there you go. Which is, which is pretty cool. Well, what does your wife work? Or does she just help you with the school? Or what does she do?
 
Peter William Murphy ** 33:26
My wife? What does she do? My wife is an artist. She’s a gamer, she’s a teacher and she’s a website designer. She’s everything. She’s the Peter whisperer. She’s definitely good at when I’m in a whirlwind writing or, you know, I’ll do too many things at once. She’s, she’s like a tablet for ADHD. I think she just, she’s good at, kind of directing me calm down. So she she knows everything. Michael, she’s a teacher, English language teacher. Graduated from Palm college, university, and she worked in an ink, in a in a college, and she’s just about to embark on her Master’s. So one of us will get that degree.
 
Michael Hingson ** 34:18
Yeah, one way or another, you’ll have one in the family. Yeah,
 
Peter William Murphy ** 34:22
exactly. Well, she has one, but she’ll get a master’s. Yeah,
 
Michael Hingson ** 34:26
you’ll have a master’s in the family. Do you have any children? No, no, no, we’re children. No children yet? Well, that’s another thing to look forward to in in the future, which is, which is,
 
Peter William Murphy ** 34:38
where we don’t know what to do. We love turkey, but also we want them to have a, you know, a Turkish. We want them to, you know, have an appreciation for Turkey and for Ireland. So we’re trying to figure out where would be the best place to to raise kids in the in. You know, current global environment. And you know, despite all the trouble that Ireland has in 2008 every time I go home, it’s still solid ground. And you know, it’s the older I get, the more I’m kind of, I think we will end up there eventually, but we’ll see. Yeah, well,
 
Michael Hingson ** 35:28
it’ll all work out in time. I suspect you strike me as individuals. Yeah, you strike me as a person that will, will make things work out. And you’re, you’re willing to step back and and do it in a methodical and in very positive way, which is, which is pretty cool. Well, tell me about some of your writing. What kind of what have you written?
 
Peter William Murphy ** 35:54
Well, I told you about the book. I’m halfway through. It’s the working title is becoming useful. Then on medium, I started writing about mental health, and I got imposter syndrome again. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with writing anecdotally about your experience, but sometimes on the internet, it’s probably better not to talk about kind of medical kind of things, you know what I mean. So I said, well, what could I pivot to? And I started writing travel memoirs about my time on the island, and I ended up getting curated about 40 times by medium selected for curation is basically where they choose the staff choose your story, and they give it a boost into the algorithm, and basically it just gets sent all over the internet. So that happened 40 times. Then I wrote for your tango, which is a New York based website. And then after a year and a half on medium, I pivoted to sub stack, where I continued to do my writing. And about three months ago, sub stack began doing live streams, kind of like on YouTube or Instagram, they have these live streams on sub stack. So I didn’t feel comfortable talking about my teaching on sub stack, because I felt like my my writing persona, not that it’s controversial, had its own space in my life, so I kept it separate from my teaching, and I spoke with a friend, and we saw everyone on Sub stack was doing these live one hour streams. So we thought we would do a comedy show. So we started doing these 1015, minute comedy shows live on substack, and they became very popular. And a lot of you know big authors like Walter Reed, Robin wilding, who would be very popular on that website came on as guest, and it’s kind of this new outlet where everything leads back to teaching, where I’m learning about video editing now and how to reach an audience, and then straight away, with peak English, I said, Okay, so that’s that. Now I know more about how the internet works, so now open up a Tiktok and an Instagram and, you know, focus that into peak English. So our Instagram account now is growing. It’s got close to 1000 followers, and our Tiktok is just open. So, yeah, going to use what I learned from sub stack to reach more students give more tips on how to pass exams on other social platforms.
 
Michael Hingson ** 39:12
Okay, and you’ve, you’ve created some fictional characters along the way, haven’t you?
 
Peter William Murphy ** 39:20
Yeah, I have Peter and Freeman, who have a small little cult following on on substack, kind of based on a relationship I have with a friend of mine and my brother and I. My brother has done the Olympics. He’s done the not as an athlete, but he’s worked for Warner Brothers and other companies, doing the filming of it, and we’re both very much in the film. We’re working on a script, and we’re trying to develop something at the moment together. Of course, our day jobs are our main focus, but it’s very nice to have a similar interest with your brother, that you can just work. Worked on together, you know,
 
Michael Hingson ** 40:01
yeah, well, you know, back in the days of old radio, there was a ven Troy lacherist, Edgar Bergen, who had his creature, Charlie McCarthy. And it was interesting that a lot of times Charlie spoke for Edgar. Edgar would, would would communicate through Charlie, as opposed to just communicating himself, and it was a way that he felt comfortable doing, which was interesting.
 
Peter William Murphy ** 40:32
Yeah, that’s interesting with Murphy’s Law, which is my medium pending, after about a year and a half, I, you know, I said I can’t keep writing about the island or this or that, or memoirs. I have to try grow as a writer. So I started trying different styles. I started writing a satire. I started writing a political satire or just pure comedy pieces. And lo and behold, I was okay at it, and they gained traction, and they were funny. And this is strange, so then Murphy’s law went to kind of satire. And then I started writing about politics, say what’s happening in the USA, the friction over there, some other world events. And I enjoyed it. The editors liked it, and it was published in some very good publications. And it was great. I found many voices, you know, but as time went on, and I love medium, and I love substack, it’s, it’s my passion, and it has helped me grow, not just as a writer, but as I mentioned earlier, helped me hone all the skills I use that become, you know, big enough on it into how I can create this business that my wife and I try to open up, and it has really helped. But you are always chasing the algorithm, you know, and I would rather have a product out there that helps people, you know, pass their exams, give them guidance with these as, you know, do volunteer work, things like that, that will actually help people. And people will remember it as peak English, as a brand that will help them, because Murphy’s Law and the exile files online, I love them, and they are my babies, but they are very much passion projects that, like Reunion Island, have helped me figure out what I want to do. You know?
 
Michael Hingson ** 42:58
Yeah, well now you talk about Murphy’s Law. And of course, we all know Murphy’s Law is, if anything can go wrong at will. But there was a book written years ago that was called Murphy’s Law and other reasons why things go wrong. And the first, I think I’ve heard of that, and the first thing in the book after Murphy’s Law was o’toole’s commentary on Murphy’s Law, which was, Murphy was an optimist. I always thought was cute. I like that. Murphy was an optimist.
 
Peter William Murphy ** 43:30
Well, it’s, you know, I think in life, like you said yourself, when, when that terrible day happens in the World Trade Center, it was like you could either lose your mind or you stay calm, you know. And no, I think, I think everybody, kind of you know, can learn from that, from learn from your book, that you just have to keep going moving forward. People react differently to different you know, setbacks like I mentioned, with the leg break and the bar closing another young man, it might, it might not have affected them at all. They would have said, It’s okay. I just kept going. But it just so happened that it affected me that way. And you my brother, for example, he stuck it out. He stayed in Ireland, and he he did it so it’s it really does depend on the person and how they how one can deal with what life throws at you. Some people think it was like it was the best thing I ever did, but looking back on it, like I wouldn’t change it, but looking back on it, I would have liked to have done it, maybe in a calmer way.
 
Michael Hingson ** 44:56
The other the other side of that though, is that. So there are a lot of things that happen around us, and we don’t have any control over the fact that they happen as such, but we absolutely have control over how we deal with what happened, and I think that’s what so many people miss and don’t, don’t deal with and the reality is that we can always make choices based on what goes on around us, and we can do that and and that can be a positive thing, or it can be a negative thing, and that’s a choice that we have To make.
 
Peter William Murphy ** 45:37
Yeah, you’re dead, right? Yeah, I, when I first came to Turkey, I was only supposed to be here for three months, you know, but there was something intoxicating about the country. There just the smell, the food people and I about six months into my stay here, back in 2013, or 14, like I did, have that decision where I had to kind of look at myself saying, Am I staying here because I’m running away, or am I staying here because I feel this is where I can achieve what I want to achieve. And I stayed because I felt this was like the environment where I could kind of deal with myself and kind of deal with life, and, you know, just be who I wanted to be, not that I couldn’t do that in Ireland, but just the 24 year old version of myself. That’s what like he was thinking, you know? And I got to respect that,
 
Michael Hingson ** 46:46
sure. And the other part about it, though, is that you you at least ask yourself the question, and you really took the responsibility to try to make a decision and come up with an answer, which is what a lot of people avoid doing.
 
Peter William Murphy ** 47:01
I wrote out the pros and cons on a piece of paper. I still have that piece of paper under your bed, and went up to the top of the mountain. There’s, there’s a huge mountain next to the city here. I’d go up there every day, but I just sat down and I just stared at the piece of paper. And there was just something where I said, you know, I have to try and become something here, you know, because if I can become something, even if it’s something small, like something, you know, as humble, as just being a language teacher or helping one person or two people, it doesn’t matter if I can do that here, then it would have been worth it. Yeah, of course. If time goes on, you learn more, you become stronger, you become more educated, you become trained. And then if you just keep going, no matter how you know down the dumps you were in the past, if you just keep going, one day, you will wake up and you will know exactly who you are and what you’re supposed to do, and that’s kind of what Turkey and Reunion Island gave to me.
 
Michael Hingson ** 48:10
Do you think that as you were growing up and so on, that the system failed you?
 
Peter William Murphy ** 48:18
I do remember one time. And I have to preface this for saying that I hold nothing against this person, but I remember I went to the psychologist or counselor in, I won’t name the university, and the university I went to and and I didn’t know them at all, and I sat down and I told them I was struggling with mental health. And, you know, there was, I’m not saying anything now like but there was a lot of young men taking their own lives in Ireland around this time, a lot and women, and I wasn’t like that at all, but I was feeling down, and I wanted to see what the university could do for me. And I remember just being turned away saying, Come back next Tuesday, you know, at 405 and I did find it very hard to kind of like communicate and get help in university through Washington, like I didn’t need directions on how to get to the Lacher hall or anything like that. I knew all that, but there was something else going on that I needed help with, and there, it wasn’t there at all. Since then, of course, in the last 1516, years, Ireland is, you know, I suggest mental health capital of the world. But when, when I was there, maybe, maybe I just caught them on a bad day.
 
Michael Hingson ** 49:58
Yeah, hard to say. But the. Other part about it is look at what you’ve done since then, and look how you talk about it today, which really illustrates a lot of resilience on your part. And I’m sure that that’s something that had to develop over time, but you still did it, and you became a more resilient individual because of all of that.
 
Peter William Murphy ** 50:22
Yeah, I’d say I’ve got that for my mom and dad. They’re very resilient. But also that resilience has changed from, you know, booking a one way ticket to reunion and, you know, just doing all that crazy stuff, then go ahead and stand ball bus rides around Turkey, not knowing where I’m going, not having money, not enough for rent, all this kind of stuff. But it’s changed because I remember I got a job partnering with a recruitment company that’s based in Amsterdam, and I remember just willy nilly booking the flight over to Amsterdam, and just kind of, I just gotten married, and I Michael. I was not resilient at all. I did not want to go, I did not want to travel, I wanted to be at home with my wife, you know what I mean? And so I definitely got softer in other ways. So your resilience does change. It becomes more kind of a mental toughness than, say, that kind of young book physical resilience that you had when you were younger. It completely switches.
 
Michael Hingson ** 51:32
Yeah, well, and I think resilience is, is really, to a large degree about the whole concept of, well, mental toughness, or maybe the ability to look at what you’re doing and going through and being able to make a decision about how to proceed, I think that’s really kind of more of it than anything else, right, right? And so resilience, I think, as oftentimes, it’s a term that’s overused, but the reality is, I think what resilience really is is your ability to keep things whoever you are, keep things in perspective, and be able to step back and ask the tough questions of yourself and listen to your inner self and get the answers that you need. Yes.
 
Peter William Murphy ** 52:25
If that makes sense. It does. It makes perfect sense. Just gotta keep going. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
 
Michael Hingson ** 52:35
You do have to keep going, and it’s kind of important to do that, but you’ve had a lot of different things that you’ve done. You know, you’ve been, you’re an author, by the way. Do you still make drinks anywhere?
 
Peter William Murphy ** 52:51
No, I just at home, right away home. Good for you. Yeah? Yeah, we it’s a drinking God. Drinking is such a funny one. It’s something that just, I don’t know, dissolved from my life. When I aged 30, I didn’t become a teetotaler or anything like that. Like I’ll still have red wine and I’ll be here with friends, but I rarely touch the stuff. And I think it’s mostly due to the fact that I start work so early in the morning, you know, and I just cannot wake up with any sort of grogginess. I leave black coffee, you know, look at the news for 20 minutes, pet my cat, take a shower and then start, yeah.
 
Michael Hingson ** 53:42
Well, my wife and I used to have a drink on Friday night. I mean, we’re capable. We were capable of going to restaurants and parties and occasionally have something. But I know since she passed in 2022 we were married 40 years. I part of honoring her is that I have a drink on Friday night. One drink. I don’t because I’ve never nice. I’ve never really felt that I need to have alcohol or anything like that. I’ve never been a great fan of the taste, but I have a drink to honor her on Friday night. So that’s kind of fun.
 
Peter William Murphy ** 54:21
Yeah, that’s very nice. I mean, we it’s my wife’s birthday in two days, actually, so I’m very lucky. She’s very she’s like me in a way. I want to take her to a nice, fancy restaurant, or to do this and do that, but she just wants a chicken burger. And hello, yeah, so we just go out to our favorite restaurant. And you know, they’re good burgers. They’re pretty gourmet, but yeah, she’s pretty down to earth with me. And yeah, we have a lot of fun together. And yeah. But I’m currently planning her birthday presents as as I’m speaking to you.
 
Michael Hingson ** 55:07
If you could go back and talk to a younger Peter, what would you what would you tell them? What would you want them to learn?
 
Peter William Murphy ** 55:15
Oh, I would tell him to go straight to a to talk to somebody, yeah, just to go straight to talk to somebody, that’s the biggest thing. I had an interview where I was the host yesterday with a man who does Astro photography, and one of his, you know, other projects he does. He’s a recovering alcoholic. Where he’s he really talks about, you know, men talking to other men too, like, if your friend call, pick up, always speak. Tell people what’s going on. Of course, don’t nag people and to tell them every problem you have, but if you’re down into dumps, you should talk to somebody. So anybody who’s like young, you know, late, late teens coming up, should definitely talk to someone straight away, because I think a few simple sentences from a professional could have saved me a lot of let’s call them headaches in the future, all
 
Michael Hingson ** 56:28
too often we the way we’re taught. We just don’t get encouraged to do that, do we?
 
Peter William Murphy ** 56:34
No, no. People listen. People are good. People will do what they can. But I think sometimes, I think the way it’s framed maybe scares men. I think we’re a lot better now, but maybe 1015, years ago, and even before that, trying to get a kid to, you know, talk to professional, nobody wants to be different in that way. You know, back then anyway and but it’s so healthy. It’s so good to have someone who can regurgitate back what you’ve just told them, but in a clear, calm fashion that you know makes sense. It does the world of good. It’s, it’s, it’s better than medicine
 
Michael Hingson ** 57:27
for most. Puts a lot of things in perspective, doesn’t it? It does, yeah, which, which makes a lot of sense. Well, yeah, I think this has been great. I’ve very much enjoyed having the opportunity to talk with you and and and hear a lot of great life lessons. I hope everyone who is out there listening to us appreciates all the things that you had to say as well. If anybody wants to reach out to you, how do they do that?
 
Peter William Murphy ** 57:57
Well, we’re on Instagram as peak English. We’re also on Tiktok as peak English,
 
Michael Hingson ** 58:04
peak as in P, E, A, K, that’s right
 
Peter William Murphy ** 58:07
behind me here. So if anybody can see it’s there’s the spelling on my wallpaper.
 
Michael Hingson ** 58:14
And, yeah, a lot of people probably aren’t watching videos, so that’s why I asked you to spell
 
Peter William Murphy ** 58:19
it. Yeah? Well, actually, I’m blocking it, so I moved out of the way. There
 
Michael Hingson ** 58:23
you go. Well, I won’t see it,
 
Peter William Murphy ** 58:27
yeah, so I Yeah. So that’s the best way to get in contact with me. You can Google me. Peter William Murphy, medium writer, I pretty much on the top of the lid, if you’re interested in writing, also the exile files. And we’re also on YouTube with the exile files, so there’s lots of stuff going on. This is an English speaking audience, so I’m assuming nobody’s going to want lessons from me. So if you’re interested in my writing, check out medium and sub stack. And if you know anybody of friends who needs English, tell them about peak English, and I will help you.
 
Michael Hingson ** 59:11
There you go. Well, I don’t know, there may be people who aren’t the greatest English speakers listening who, who might reach out. Well, I hope that they do, and I hope they appreciate all that you’ve offered today. I really appreciate you coming on and spending an hour with us. I hope that all it’s an honor. Oh, it’s been fun. And I would say to all of you out there, I’d love to hear what your thoughts are. Feel free to email me at Michael H i@accessibe.com that’s m, I, C, H, A, E, L, H, I, at accessibe, A, C, C, E, S, S, i, b, e.com, love to hear from you. I’d love to hear your thoughts wherever you’re listening. I hope that you’ll give us a five star rating. We really appreciate your ratings and your reviews and Peter for you and for all of you, if you know anyone who ought to be a. Guest on the podcast. We’re always looking for people to come on and tell their stories, so don’t hesitate to provide introductions. We love it. We really appreciate you all doing that. And again, Peter, I just want to thank you for for coming on. This has been a lot of fun today.
 
1:00:14
Thank you so much. It’s pleasure to speak with you.
 
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